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things you should never say to a girl. ever.

1. you look tired. (even if we do. we don’t need you to tell us. thanks!)

2. my ex would… (don’t EVEN think it. we’re already psycho about your ex-girlfriends, even if we never admit it. we don’t want to think you’re comparing us to the last girl you dipped your stick into. unless you want to hear about the last dreamboat we shared a pillow with)

3. you deserve better. OR i’m not good enough for you. (umm…are you looking for validation? because i’m not going to give it to you. all you’re going to do is convince me you lack confidence, which = unattractive. and perhaps even get me to agree. is that what you want?)

4. your mom is a bitch. (just because i’m allowed to say it doesn’t mean you are. even if she does ignore you and pretends like you don’t exist when we go over there for dinner)

5. you’re wearing that? (uhh – no, i was just showing you the contents of my closet that i never intend to wear. p.s. thanks for making me self-conscience about my outfit for the rest of the day. i had a boyfriend that would always comment on the things i wore to work. one day he looked at me and said ‘you look like a fairy princess’ while i’m a big big fan of being compared to a princess in a fairy tale, he didn’t mean it in a nice way. my puffy sleeved shirt has never been worn since.)

6. if you loved me, you’d… (seriously? don’t try to manipulate us. we’re better at it than you are.)

7. i don’t believe in monogamy (ok ok, this is one i’ve never heard from a guy. but i’ve said it. and it didn’t go over well. so, don’t make the same mistake i did.)

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i’m the luckiest girl in the world!

my dad has cancer.

my best friend moved away.
i might be laid off.my latest bout with birth control left me moody, frequently nauseous, broken out, and all around CRAZY.

oh. and i never got the barbie dream house i always wanted.

yet…last night for the first time in a very long time, i took the time to count my blessings. it is an activity i used to practice every night before bed. and every single time, it helps me feel better and put things into perspective. i’m so fortunate in so many ways. and i’m grateful. for everything.
aside from lifting my spirits, it’s actually a fun little game to play (sure beats counting sheep!) alone or take turns with a pal (if you’re sharing the bed with one. i may or may not have been). try it tonight!
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forever. for now.

life is seasons.

people change.

feelings shift.


i don’t understand how people can promise forever. honestly, i just don’t get it. i mean, i can’t even be sure of what i’ll want to do tomorrow…let alone next year or twenty years from now. sure, i’ll always love my family and my friends, but i don’t live with them. in a relationship, is there really such a thing as forever?!

of course i want there to be. it’s such a lovely thought. you meet someone, you fall in love, and you stay together. forever.

‘forever – is composed of nows’ emily dickinson

…forever. for now.

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on love…

sometimes (often), i mistype things. i was at work one day chatting with my favorite IM buddy and i intended to say something about being in love when i accidentally typed ‘on love.’ and you know what? it actually makes more sense.

you’re not so much ‘in’ love as you are ‘on’ it, like a drug. that’s why coming off it (break ups) are SO hard. love detox. nothing worse.

i won’t get into the whole euphoria, exhilaration aspect of it. because it’s cliched. and i hate cliches. and i know that hating cliches is SO cliched.

anyway, my point is. i’m on love. and it’s delightful. and scary. and seriously makes all your shit come out (read: i’ve got some major issues).

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why i hate wise mind…

for starters – allow me to explain: wise mind is a balance between your emotional and reasonable minds. on a very basic level, it’s ‘think, then act’
for more detailed info, click: wise mind.

i blame one of my best friends (she’s a therapist) for bringing this theory into my world…i’ve always operated on a mostly emotional level. i think a good friend once referred to me as emotionally logical…and i am. mostly. but admittedly there are times (more often than i’d like to admit) when logic completely evades me…


ever since this wise mind theory was introduced into my life, it’s been my albatross and my saving grace. now when i find myself in a pickle (these are often self-induced and only in my head…what can i say? i’m over-analytical ~ AND emotional), i find myself wondering ‘is this wise mind?’ (and no, it usually isn’t).

i tend to analyze things to the point where i conjure up my own understandings and scenarios…mostly of things that haven’t (and may never) happen. and when it’s boy-related (92% of the time) – i (unrealistically) expect him to confirm what’s going on in my head by: a) reading my mind b) talking it to death with me. of course, my wise mind recognizes how big of a head case this makes me…but there are times…when i simply. can. not. help. it!

it’s even pervaded my friend’s minds…and there’s been more than one time that i’ve been called upon to provide some wise mind. which for the record, is alllllllllllllways easier to do when the situation is not yours. obvi.

example: these christian louboutins cost more than my paycheck, do i need them? emotional mind: (SCREAMING) YESSSSSSSSSSSS! wise mind: no. no you don’t NEED them.

so, while i’m partially grateful to one of my favorite pals for acquainting me with the skills to understand and develop wise mind…i still don’t have a pair of louboutins. and for that. i HATE wise mind.