restless.
i’ve been this way for as long as i can remember and it’s gotten me into some interesting situations. mostly involving last minute travel to random locations.
many moons ago, i had recently become single and was back in touch with a suitor that i had been entertaining prior to my relationship. he lived in nyc and invited me to visit for the weekend to watch the world cup with him. i had a brief conversation with him about how it sounded fun & by the time i got home his secretary had sent me an email with my itinerary – leaving the next morning. my flirting skills are en pointe.
it happened too quickly for me to think too much about it or the implications of spending a weekend with someone. i packed up my bag and the next morning, i hopped on a plane.
some background: i met this guy on a trip to nyc a few years prior and we went out several times during my visit and stayed in touch over the years. i may have even seen him on subsequent visits to nyc – the details are hazy now. i do remember one particular dinner with a group of his friends where his gorgeous, indian, beauty pageant, ex-girlfriend was present. that was fun. (it actually really was. but that’s because i had a run-in with usher that night and so i couldn’t be bothered with the ex-girlfriend nonsense. also, i didn’t really care, which caused me to ignore red flags that would send me running now. oh, hindsight.)
i digress. we definitely hadn’t moved past first base (because if you know me at all, you know – i’m pretty prudish). after i arrived, he took me out for a nice dinner. i chose to overlook the fact that he was wearing a cuff bracelet and had his shirt unbuttoned about one button too low. we had a nice time and when we got back to his place we were both pretty tired so we decided to go to sleep. i went into the bathroom to change (prude style) and when i emerged in my tank top and sweats i found him sprawled on the bed covered by a blanket the size of a napkin. he was clearly topless, but i couldn’t tell if he was wearing anything under the napkin/blanket. and i wasn’t curious enough to really look. i hopped into bed as far on the opposite side as i could and tried to stick a corner of the napkin/blanket on me since i was FREEZING. he had the a/c on iceland mode. clever.
i curled up in a little ball with my back to him and eventually fell asleep only to be woken up at various points in the night from his arm draped on me. dead weight draped. it felt horrible. i was horrified that i got myself into this situation. he continued trying to touch/grope me throughout the night and i continued pretending to be asleep and scoot dangerously close to the edge of the bed. all that kept running in my head was 3 more nights of this! THREE MORE NIGHTS of fighting him off.
the next morning he woke me up at a ridiculously early time and started BLARING techno. now, i’m not a big techno fan in general (i like it for things like running, but generally NOT a fan), so you can imagine my amusement in being woken up to some hard hitting beats. i tried to disappear by covering my face with my pillow. it didn’t work. and the movement on my part prompted him to speak.
him: wake up!
me: i’m tired. need more sleep.
him: but it’s 9!
me: NOT in san diego. in san diego, it’s 6! turn this music off, it’s giving me a headache.
him: ok, i’ll put on some enya.
and he did.
it was obvious that sleep was outta the question so i agreed to get up. i immediately jumped in the shower. while i was in there i took some deep calming breaths. they failed.
i got dressed and he went into the shower.
while he was in there, i packed up my bag. by the time he got out of the shower, i was completely ready to leave.
and i did.
i didn’t provide much of an explanation. i was young and uncomfortable and just wanted to get the h-e-l-l away from him.
i called my brother to discuss my travel options.
nerd: how much is a ticket?
me: i have no idea.
nerd: if it’s a lot, just stay there & have sex with him.
typical nerd comment.
i called up the airline and discovered that all flights to san diego were sold out for the next 2 days. i explained my situation to the woman on the phone. i told her all about the techno and the napkin/blanket. and she had me on a flight to la that evening. it cost me $5.
a little bit of my sanity.
and a lot of my naïveté.
i made my brother drive to la to pick me up and let him make fun of me the entire way home without sassing him too much in return.
i still can’t listen to enya.
i still find myself overly annoyed about indian ex-girlfriends, in particular. (especially since i’m often asked if i’m indian, i am not. i’m olive, not brown)
and that guy still wants to hang out with me.
sdinsd 