wrong place at the right time.

i was recently on a picturesque trip with my family including my mother-in-law and one of my best friends flew out to meet us. this bestie was talking about an upcoming trip to nyc and i exclaimed “oh, i love nyc! i got engaged there” and then realized the company i was in and clarified to my mother-in-law that it wasn’t to her son. she responded “but it was just for a night, right?” confused, i asked her what she meant. she brought up the failed attempt by a former suitor to impulsively fly me out and woo me, that has since become a standing joke in my family (if you haven’t heard the story before, don’t worry, i’ll be putting it back up).

me: no, that was a different guy.

mother-in-law: oh, was it the guy who was messaging you last time i visited?

me: nooo, that was a different guy…

mother-in-law: oh. so, i guess i don’t know about who you’re talking about.

…and here we are.

the lost years…

we have so much to cover. i will be bringing back the old entries…should i scrub the offensive stuff or not? i said some wild things, i stand by most of them…and also, i’m a person, i’ve changed, i’ve grown (not vertically).

it’s hard to believe this started 14 years ago, when i was in my 20s. it felt right to bring it back today, on my 43rd birthday. so much has happened and i’m a completely different me than the girl who first sat down at her laptop to write about love and boys, and share her thoughts with her friends (and a few strangers). and yet, i’m still sitting here writing about love…and boys (maybe a couple exclusively now). full circle, i suppose. it feels like me. it feels right.

if you are an ex, this is your warning to STOP READING now. i will be detailing your bad behavior and if you’ve gotten a pass till now, i hope you enjoyed your peace. (i can anticipate the messages coming and let’s save ourselves the time. the terrible thing you’re thinking of, yes – i will be mentioning it.)

let’s talk about the breakups.

let’s talk about the miscarriages.

let’s talk about the wedding.

let’s talk about cancer.

let’s talk about how i’ve never met a bridge i didn’t want to burn.

let’s talk about the boy.

let’s talk about his baba.

let’s talk about my baba.

let’s talk about how i finally get to do what i’ve always wanted.

it’s about a boy.

it’s about a boy (isn’t it always?).

it’s about how it’s different this time (how many times have i claimed that?).

it’s about unconditional love.

it’s about how he broke my heart wide open.

it’s about wishing my dad could’ve met him.

it’s about how i can’t get enough of him.

it’s about how he murmurs “i love you” while he’s sleeping.

it’s about how the cracks in my heart started to mend.

it’s about the way he scrunches his nose.

it’s about understanding what my baba was talking about.

it’s about how he tells me his heart is full of me.

it’s about how it almost didn’t happen.

it’s about persistence.

it’s about wishing on dandelions.

it’s about hummingbirds.

it’s about trucks.

it’s about books.

it’s about how he really knows me.

it’s about laughter.

it’s about tears.

it’s about what really matters.

it’s about healing.

it’s about how he changed me.

it’s about how words fail.

it’s about writing again (though i never stopped).

it’s about time.

marriage has a nice ring to it.

once upon a time (like, 10 months ago), i was hanging out in a local coffee shop with my good friend.

she asked the dreamy blue-eyed boy next to me about his beverage.

he said something snarky.

i was intrigued.

four hours after talking non-stop and annoying everyone in the coffee shop (including my friend), he left with my phone number.

and now…

why didn’t i meet you sooner?

today while going through some old writing, i discovered that i had jotted down a little snippet of conversation that occurred several years ago while out at dinner with an old flame.

like most things i find amusing, i decided to share this tidbit with my current boyfriend:

waiter: how is everything?

me: my dad died.

(dirty look from my old flame.)

me: he said “everything!” not just the food.

naturally this facilitated a chuckle from my (real-time) boyfriend (he’s as funny as i am).

which prompted the subject question thought…